Sometimes I get ever-so slightly irked.
(… this statement is false; I often get very irked)
In this instance I get ever-so slightly irked by those who spout forth with self-righteous indignation about the selfishness of people who don’t want to donate their organs following their death.
(… there was thread on ihd.com, but I can’t find it now)
Once upon a time I had a real issue with organ donation. I was adamant that when I die I didn’t want any of my organs to be used, and I certainly didn’t carry an organ donor card.
But if you ask me why I felt that way, I can’t give you a reasonable excuse response. I don’t think I ever had a reason … not a good one anyway, and if I did have a reason I certainly can’t remember it now, or put it into a sentence that doesn’t sound pathetic. However, I was not selfish – I am completely sure of that.
Organ donation is an incredibly personal choice. The one thing we exclsuively own (usually) is our body. We can choose to treat our body like a temple, or we can choose to neglect/harm it. It belongs to us, and we have the right to say what happens to all the bits that make us who we are, even (or especially) upon death. Other people may not like that, or appreciate it, but to be so judegmental and rude (calling someone selfish is rude) doesn’t make them a better person.
So, I do get irked when folk start calling other folk selfish for choosing not to donate.
How very dare you!
The main argument seems to be well, you can’t take them with you!, which I usually associate as being said with a smug grin.
I won’t be able to take my money with me either, but it doesn’t mean I can’t choose what happens to it after I die.
A few months ago I popped online and became a registered organ donor. I now have a card, which I carry with me in my purse at all times, and the people who need to know, know. I am content with my decision. It doesn’t make me selfless.
As an aside, I didn’t tick the ‘eye’ box. I have a ‘thing’ about eyes and it’s the one part of me that I can’t bear to imagine being used. Yes, it is partly because I’m squeamish, but I think it runs deeper than that and until I psycho-analyse myself I won’t be able to say how deep or why. This doesn’t make me selfish.
I have tentatively put the wheels in motion to be a living donor for Blokey. This isn’t selfless, and it isn’t heroic.
In fact, I’d probably say the opposite; my reasons for wanting to do it are incredibly selfish.
In an ideal world we would live in a society where we had to opt-out of organ donation, but we don’t yet live in that society and I refuse to think of someone as selfish for not choosing to pop online and become a registered donor. I don’t even have the right to question somebody on their reasons for not doing so.
(I suppose I might try and educate them though …)
And it makes me mad that some pompous people think they do have the right.